2024-04-01
- emotional work is hard work. Emotionally immature people feel like they don’t need
- Roles are sacred to emotional immature people: role of parent.
- Kids feel like they have to help solve their parents emotional problems but they can’t.
- They seek enmeshment, not intimacy
- emotional parents
- Driven parents
- passive parwnts
- healing dreams. Creates roles. Role-self vs true self. “If only I…” is a coping mechanism
2024-03-30
- Don’t see their role in your problems.
- don’t tell you about stuff.
- Self referential vs self reflective
- Expressing feelings wasn’t condoned or supported.
- Crying stops when given emotional support. “I’ll give you something to cry about”
- Focuses on facts and dive deep in intellectual topics but not emotions
- Overemphasize physical health → we can feel as children a bond to those who took physical care of us but not emotional.
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